In case you were wondering, publishing a book is not “neat” in any sense of the word.
Writing a book is messy.
Writing a book is demanding.
Writing a book is heartbreaking.
Writing a book demands sacrifices of yourself and everyone close to you.
Writing a book will drain you, punch you in the gut, and then kick you while you’re down.
When you finally hold that book in your hands after years of fighting, chopping, and spilling your heart onto the page, it will be surreal. It will be amazing. You’ll also think something like, “Well, it’s about damn time.” And then you’ll go take a nap or collapse onto the couch to sob a little… and then take a nap.
I outlined my publishing journey in my book Write without Crushing Your Soul, and the most common response I hear from readers is despair. When I walk new authors through the book marketing process, many of them just want to crawl into the fetal position.
And I haven’t even mentioned the absolute worst part of book publishing. And no, it’s not a bad review.
The worst part about publishing is the staggering indifference of most readers to your work.
Marketing a carefully crafted book is draining and demanding, but few may read it no matter how hard you try to spread the word. Remember, J.K. Rowling published a book under a pen name, and it hardly sold any copies. This is someone who has penned enduring bestsellers that have defined an entire generation of young readers, and she couldn’t even rack up a few thousand readers when using a different name.
Do you have any idea how daunting that is?
All of this is profoundly NOT NEAT.
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I do a lot of author coaching both formally and informally, recommend they read Write without Crushing Your Soul, and encourage them to write with questions about the next step. If they can’t even finish the book, then they’re clearly not determined enough to publish a book—they probably just think publishing is “neat” until you read about the demands and challenges of the process.
The people who will succeed in book publishing cannot go into it because they think it’s neat. They need a stronger driving force to carry them through all of the politics, discouragement, and exhaustion.
Writing a book has to be an unstoppable mission or a haunting presence that you can’t shake. You have to find yourself scribbling down ideas, dreaming of book covers, and imagining what your readers want.
I would go so far as saying that it’s like the words bottled up in the prophet Jeremiah that were a fire in his bones. If he didn’t let them out, they would have consumed him.
Authors must be driven write. There’s something inside of us that we simply can’t switch off. And perhaps we’ll still say that publishing a book would be neat, but deep down it must be more than. It must be a driving passion.
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When I talk to friends about book publishing and I learn that one of them is considering it, I often say something like this, “I’ll help you, but I also want to spare you from pain. This is going to hurt.”
The pain of publishing is one of the most common reflections I’ve heard from fellow writers. It… just… hurts. That isn’t to say that it’s bad to have that pain. You just need to really want that finished book project if you’re going to endure that kind of pain.
The most worthy goals in life often call us to the greatest pain.
In the Christian faith we talk about the cost of discipleship, laying our lives down for the cause of Christ. If you feel a calling or desire to write, there will be a sacrifice and it will hurt, but there are certainly rewards if you can fight past the pain.
In fact, I would even say that we can even resist some of the pain in publishing. We can choose to ignore which influencers or friends have ignored our book. We can stop comparing our success to other authors.
Instead, we can look at the people whose lives have been changed by our work.
We can be grateful that we finally breathed these words of fire onto the page and they didn’t consume us.
We can be grateful that we’ve created something that could outlive us.
We can be grateful that we’ve persevered and accomplished something that only a small group of people are willing to endure.
Book publishing is not for everyone. In fact, even with the ease of self-publishing, there are lots of people who should focus on other creative outlets, such as podcasting, creating short videos, or blogging. A book can effectively communicate ideas to a lot of people, but it’s not the only way to reach a large group of people with ideas or stories.
Writing and publishing several books has been the most meaningful work I’ve done. If I had a few days, weeks, or months left to live, I’d keep publishing. It’s the best kind of challenge I can imagine. It results in something I’m proud of.
As much as I love it, I can assure you that publishing a book is not “neat.”
You can read more of my thoughts on publishing and protecting your soul in my book…